what did I do? seriously. part deux.
So because it was still upsetting me that all this occured yesterday, I finally broke down and asked one of my co-workers about it. She was like whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat?! And then she said... yeah, hes pretty much done that to everyone.
So apparently hes the one with the issue not me. He has been spoken to by that admin here in the lab and they have told him he needs to get some kind of control. The guy works literally every day and has one weekend off a month. While I myself have done this, and i would do it to support my family like he is... obviously hes a bit stressed, perhaps?
Anyway, this isnt a solo incident and my co worker recommended letting it go... but if I feel I need to say something, then do it. She also said to not expect an apology. My issue is this: while I like to think that im pretty easy-going and flexible, I feel totally awkward around him now. Like, I dont want to just forget it ever happened, cuz it scared me. My co-worker said that she sat down with this guy and told him that when he gets like that (hes lashed out several times at her, practically split personality almost) she is afraid hes going to hit her. And thats how it felt.
Now... everyones assured her (and so has he, for that matter) that he would never hit her... I dont know, its just creepy, and knowing that about someone.... that they could flip on you for no reason... doesnt exactly make me all warm and fuzzy towards them. I dont deserve to be spoken to like that... and I DO deserve an apology.
I am trying to figure out how I can be "the bigger person" in all of this... but I dont know if there is a way to do it. If I had done something wrong, I could apologize... but I have no intentions of apologize for something I didnt do just to make ammends. I am afraid that if i sit down and talk with him, I am going to end up getting upset... and I hate when I cant control my tears. I dont know...
I guess I am just gonna let it blow past, but let my further interactions with him be even more remote than they have been. While I do believe hes a nice guy, if he cant control himself, and he lashes out at the people around him... well, I dont want to be around him. I would prefer to not have people like that in my life. Its just creepy, we will leave it at that, and if he approaches me about it, fine, and if he doesnt, we are at least on civil terms.
So apparently hes the one with the issue not me. He has been spoken to by that admin here in the lab and they have told him he needs to get some kind of control. The guy works literally every day and has one weekend off a month. While I myself have done this, and i would do it to support my family like he is... obviously hes a bit stressed, perhaps?
Anyway, this isnt a solo incident and my co worker recommended letting it go... but if I feel I need to say something, then do it. She also said to not expect an apology. My issue is this: while I like to think that im pretty easy-going and flexible, I feel totally awkward around him now. Like, I dont want to just forget it ever happened, cuz it scared me. My co-worker said that she sat down with this guy and told him that when he gets like that (hes lashed out several times at her, practically split personality almost) she is afraid hes going to hit her. And thats how it felt.
Now... everyones assured her (and so has he, for that matter) that he would never hit her... I dont know, its just creepy, and knowing that about someone.... that they could flip on you for no reason... doesnt exactly make me all warm and fuzzy towards them. I dont deserve to be spoken to like that... and I DO deserve an apology.
I am trying to figure out how I can be "the bigger person" in all of this... but I dont know if there is a way to do it. If I had done something wrong, I could apologize... but I have no intentions of apologize for something I didnt do just to make ammends. I am afraid that if i sit down and talk with him, I am going to end up getting upset... and I hate when I cant control my tears. I dont know...
I guess I am just gonna let it blow past, but let my further interactions with him be even more remote than they have been. While I do believe hes a nice guy, if he cant control himself, and he lashes out at the people around him... well, I dont want to be around him. I would prefer to not have people like that in my life. Its just creepy, we will leave it at that, and if he approaches me about it, fine, and if he doesnt, we are at least on civil terms.
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