moving from i to we

Moving from "I" to "we" is a critical step in any relationship... friendship, romantic, or otherwise.

It signifies the union, the understanding, the point where you trust that you have some sort of unspoken bond.

It is a good feeling.




I think the use of "we" in a relationship is a lot like the use of "love"... The definitions definitely change as I mature and grow and am able to use them at a higher level. It is a bit hard to accept at times... the maturation of romance. It is scary, because you cannot be sure that that romance will be as exciting and amazing as the "honeymoon period". Nothing can tell you, either, but going through it.

Jon has a saying on his whiteboard from years ago... It says something like, Never stop dating your wife. A very good thought.... let it mature, let them become your wife or your husband, but keep up the little things, keep the romance, keep the intrigue... just let it be more mature.

There is romance in cooking breakfast together, in planning travel months in advance, in picking out clothes for the day, in stealing each other's body heat on a cold day, just in using the word "we" and never once thinking that "we" would not exist for some reason. There is romance in the assumption that we have plans tonight...

Think back to your earliest relationships, or when you are "just dating" someone... the comfort of "we" is not there... you might do something tonight. You might not. You may have a date for that wedding next summer, but maybe not. Should you buy them something for Christmas? Maybe. Should you buy something for their family on Christmas? Yeah, right!

Of course it is not to say that those maybes are bad... because maybe holds oh-so-much possibility!! It is the thrill of the unknown and the chase. It is butterflies and googly eyes and hope. And that is not bad whatsoever... its wonderful!

But it is not promise, which is what "we" brings... at least, some measure of it.



It makes me smile.