the bachelor

Okay, so here is the thing... I was not so into the bachelor, but since there was nothing on last night until Heroes, I tuned in. I knew it was the finale, so why not settle in for some sappiness?

The thing is... it was disgusting.

First of all, this guy made out with pretty much every single girl there. Besides kissing all of them, he had serious make-out sessions with at least 5 of them. Hello? Gross! Also, can you fall in love with someone in 2 months? I suppose so. But how can you fall in love and love "everything about" someone when you a) do not see them every day and b) he just so happens to be making out with a bunch of other girls?! These poor pathetic women need to wake up and smell the scent of other women on this man that they adore. What man who is worth having be willing to make out with all those various chicks for 2 months and have no moral issue with it.

Here is the other thing - this dude has a kid. This poor little kid is about 3... and at least they mostly kept him out of it until the very end. However, the ever-debonaire bachelor proposes to this woman in the last episode and they proceed to spend 6 weeks together, Christmas holidays and all... and then! and then!!!!

Then he brings her back to the show, breaks up with her on tv (she totally did not see it coming) and proceeds to beg the reject, girl number 2, for a chance... and she says yes. AND THEY MAKE OUT.

Think about it.... this poor little boy is going to have a heck of the time 10 years from now when he starts seeing clips of his loser dad on the internet. Is he going to think making out with various women is okay? Ugh. When a guy does that in real life, we call him a player and a whore... do it on tv and its all rainbows and butterflies. EW. ew ew ew.

Reality TV has seen some lows... but this is low. icky. Did they all get STD screenings beforehand?

Something else I don't get... most of these women are like 24 to 27. All of them are like yeah, I have done the whole party thing, I had my own life, now I am ready for a family. The last two girls, in fact, were 24 and 25. Really? Really at 24 you are ready to be a step mom? Methinks not! Young, beautiful, intelligent women would look at this situation (32 yr old divorcee who has been engaged TWICE now, married once, with a 3 yr old in tow) and think: hmm, maybe something is wrong with him. HELLO!!!!! Wake up dummies!!! Really, at 24 you are ready to drop everything and move across the country for someone you have known (barely) for 2 months? Please. Life does NOT work like that, and people who think it does have a lot of disappointments in their future.

Am I being too harsh? I think not!

In fact, I think I am rather qualified to rant like this because I can trace back nearly all of the issues in my relationships to the fact that I lived in a fantasy world.

When I look back, most of the times I got in trouble with my boyfriends were when I though things had to be storybook fairytale perfect. Is magic real? Yes. Can things be the stuff of dreams? Yes, totally. But I am pretty convinced that the true beauty in a relationship is found in the seemingly mundane.

A glance where you know what he or she is thinking, and you know that he or she totally understands you in the same way...
A good morning kiss...
Sharing laughter...

These are the amazing wonderful fantastic things that happen every day, and THAT is the true fairytale, not this bs whisk you off to New Zealand and take you on a helicopter ride and then go bungee jumping before the personal chef makes you a 7 course meal. I am not saying have low expectations... but, heavens, be realistic! See the beauty of an every day committed relationship... of knowing he will be there when you wake up and when you go to bed... of knowing that there will be problems and that you will work it out... of a tickle fight... of watching a movie or watching "your show" together... there is a lot to rejoice in there.


Anyway, I think this stupid show has gotten me off track. The main point is that I am pretty grossed out... not only be the fact that this guy was slutty, and had a KID to think of... but for a show promoting the storybook romance! Blech. Girls should NOT think love happens that way! Real love is way way way better and way more normal than that. It feels just as amazing, don't worry.... but you should not need a yacht ride into the sunset to generate that love!